What is My Love Language? Take Breeze’s 5 Love Language Quiz to Find Out

The popular book from 1992 by Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages" gave us the idea of the five love languages. The five love languages theory by Chapman says there are five ways to show and receive love:

• acts of service
• words of affirmation
• quality time spent together
• receiving gifts or giving
• physical touch

You have one love language as your primary and another as your secondary. A similar concept exists in seven love languages. What is your primary love language?

Take a quick love language quiz to discover!

What is the Love Language Test?

You can take a love language quiz from Breeze to find out your primary love language or your partner's love language.

The Breeze 5 Love Languages Test is a modern, usually shorter, and more visual version of Dr. Gary Chapman's classic love languages quiz. It has 20 questions and is meant to be quick. Most people finish it in 10 minutes or less.

Knowing your love language style or someone else's love language, like your partner's or husband's, strengthens the emotional connection, makes the person feel significant, and overall helps to maintain a healthy relationship.

How to Take the Love Language Test?

Go to the Breeze tests page and choose “5 Love Languages Test.” Then, click “Start Quiz,” and you'll discover a series of this-or-that style questions. Take your time and answer honestly on all those 20 questions that the quiz contains. By taking this quiz, find out your main love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved ones better.

Interpreting Your Love Language Test Results

The one with the highest score is your primary love language. Your score is how you feel most loved by others. For example:

• Quality time: When someone gives you their full attention, you feel valued.
• Acts of service: You value actions more than words, and it makes a big difference when someone helps you or takes on responsibility.
• Words of affirmation: You love receiving compliments, words of support, and thanks.
• Receiving gifts: Any thoughtful gift makes you feel seen and valued.
• Physical touch: Hugs, cuddles, or just holding hands are all physical touch that instantly connect you emotionally.

If you get a low score, it just means that love language is not as important to you as other languages. You can take a quiz and share the results with your partner. Your partner can do the same. Then, you can compare your scores and learn how to show love in ways that work for both of you.

If you don't have a partner, you can still take this quiz or our personality test for self-discovery. The test results will help you figure out what you need more of and what you might miss in other people.

Why understanding love languages is important in relationships

Being in a relationship with someone who understands and shows you affection with your love language strengthens the bond, makes you feel loved and appreciated, and keeps the relationship healthy. In return, knowing someone's love language, like your partner's or husband's, can help you boost their confidence and give them a healthy sense of safety and support.

Research also indicates that when partners in a relationship learn to speak each other's love languages and practice self-regulation techniques to deal with their emotions, the results are better for everyone involved. [1]

Finally, talking about what makes you happy on a regular basis can also help you understand each other better and grow closer. It has been shown that couples can become closer by strengthening their communication skills (Global Journal of Health Science, 2016). [2]

FAQ

How accurate is the Love Language Test?

This test has been researched to ensure its validity and reliability. It is based on the Five Love Language Scale developed by Egbert and Polk (2006), the Book of Gary Chapman, and the licensed marriage counselor from Breeze, who reviewed this quiz.

Is this a compatibility test?

With this test, you can become a better partner with anyone, but it can not tell you who you will be most compatible with. Love styles are not meant to put people in a certain mold or help them choose the kind of relationships they can have. Instead, they are meant to help everyone understand how different people can be in how they act and gesture in ways that matter to them.

Can this test help solve relationship conflicts?

This test most likely can not resolve conflict in couples. However, by taking a test to determine your love language or the love language of your partner, you can have more meaningful conversations with those you care about how to strengthen bonds of connection, love, and appreciation.

Can your love language change over time?

Indeed, a person's love language can evolve due to various life events, relationship changes, and individual development. Becoming a parent, losing a loved one, or going through significant life changes can affect how you feel loved and show love to others.

How do I communicate with someone who has a different love language?

To talk to someone whose love language is different from yours, figure out what makes them feel important, and try to show your love in that way, even if it is not how you usually do it. Talking to each other openly and honestly and doing small, thoughtful things can help you connect better.

Are love languages the same for romantic relationships and friends?

Love languages can apply to romantic relationships and friendships, but how they’re expressed might look a little different depending on the context. For example, physical touch in relationships can take the form of cuddling or hugs, whereas in friendships, it can be high-fives or friendly hugs.

Are love languages the same across different cultures?

Love is a complex emotion everyone feels, but it takes on different forms in different cultures. Examples from countries like Japan, India, Brazil, and Wales show how gestures, rituals, and symbols reflect local expressions of affection. People from collectivistic cultures value respectful, indirect, and nonverbal ways of showing love, like quality time or acts of service. In contrast, people from individualistic cultures value direct verbal ways, like words of affirmation.

What is the most common love language for men?

A YouGov survey of 1,000 Americans reveals that men's most preferred love language varies by age. Physical touch is the primary love language for men aged 45 and up, whereas younger men are more likely to value quality time. [3]

Sources:

• Bunt S, Hazelwood ZJ. Walking the walk, talking the talk: Love languages, self-regulation, and relationship satisfaction. Pers Relationship. 2017
• Kardan-Souraki M, Hamzehgardeshi Z, Asadpour I, Mohammadpour RA, Khani S. A review of marital intimacy-enhancing interventions among married individuals. Glob J Health Sci. 2016
• What are Americans’ love languages? Survey, YouGov, 2022.