Are you the life of a party or a hidden gem? Sometimes, it may be challenging to know how others truly see us.
Whether you’re naturally outgoing or a little more reserved, understanding your likeability can help you become more charismatic. Take “Am I likeable? quiz to find out where you stand and uncover tips to enhance your social charm!
Likable person test
Please choose one answer for each question. Then, calculate your totals and proceed to the next section.
1. How do you act when meeting new people?
- I LOVE meeting new people. I’m usually friendly and curious, ask many questions, and do my best to make them feel at ease. First impressions matter, and I want them to be good. (2 points)
- I’m polite, but I don’t go out of my way to connect. I let the vibe of the interaction determine how much effort I’ll put in. (1 point)
- I tend to stay quiet and let others lead the conversation. Talking to new people isn’t a 100% comfortable thing for me. (0 points)
2. What do you do when someone seems upset?
- I ask if they’re OK and suggest my help. Actually, I love to make people feel happier. (2 points)
- I often notice others’ sadness but don’t feel comfortable getting involved. If someone asks, I can give a helping hand. (1 point)
- It’s not my problem. I tend to ignore or not notice it because I have too many other things to do in my life. (0 points)
3. What’s your first reaction when someone shares good news?
- I congratulate them sincerely and light up with excitement. When something cool happens to someone, I feel happier, too. Their joy becomes mine! (2 points)
- I say, “Oh, that’s nice,” but I don’t really put much energy into my response. It’s not that I’m not happy for them — I just don’t always show it. (1 point)
- Their good news doesn’t seem that important compared to my life. So, I tend not to show any reaction. (0 points)
4. How often do you compliment others?
- Frequently, and I mean it when I do. (2 points)
- Occasionally, but I don’t always think about it. (1 point)
- Rarely, unless it benefits me. (0 points)
5. How often do you show gratitude to others?
- All the time! Whether saying thank you, leaving a kind note, or just expressing appreciation, I love making people feel valued. (2 points)
- Sometimes. I appreciate people but don’t express it as much as I should. (1 point)
- Almost never. I believe people know I’m grateful without me having to say it. (0 points)
6. How do you handle criticism?
- I try to view it as an opportunity to grow (even when it feels challenging). I thank the person for their honesty and reflect on the feedback. (2 points)
- I listen to criticism but often feel defensive. It’s difficult not to take it personally sometimes. (1 point)
- I dismiss criticism outright or respond with irritation. If they don’t agree with me, that’s their problem. (0 points)
7. How do you react to someone’s mistake?
- I stay kind and offer help or advice. No one is ideal. (2 points)
- I point it out but don’t dwell on it. I don’t like people making mistakes, so if it happens often, I may get irritated (1 point)
- I criticize or make sarcastic comments. It’s challenging for me to tolerate errors. (0 points)
“Can a person be viewed as likable by a teenager and unlikeable by an adult (for example) at the same time?” We asked Hannah Schlueter, MA, LAC, “Any one person can be perceived as likeable by some but viewed as unlikable by others. It’s important to recognize what defines someone as “likeable” is completely subjective and depends on the person making the judgment. Everyone has different personalities, interests, and interpersonal preferences that lead to varying opinions of who is likeable or not. This normalizes the notion that you do not have to be liked by everyone, nor should you try to be.”
Results of the likeable person test
Well, the moment of truth is here! Add up your points and see where you land on the likeability scale.
16-20 Points
People seem to like you very much.
You always share positivity and warmth wherever you go. People genuinely enjoy your company because you’re empathetic, thoughtful, and engaging. You make others feel valued, and it’s no surprise that your social circle is full of people who adore you.
Tip: Keep being your wonderful self! The world needs people like you.
10-15 Points
You’re quite pleasant, but there’s still a lot of potential for getting more charming.
With a bit more effort toward being more present in conversations, you could easily become the go-to person everyone loves being around. Small changes, like showing more enthusiasm or offering compliments, can make a big difference.
Tip: Pay more attention to those around, and you’ll see how their approach changes. Retake “Am I likeable? quiz after some time to track your progress.
In addition, you can take our “What emotion am I?” test to discover how you react to different situations and how you can better understand and manage your emotions. This might help you connect with others on a deeper level and enhance your natural charm even further.
0-9 Points
You might come across as unapproachable at times. So there’s room for improvement.
Likeability is a skill, and with practice, you can absolutely master it. Offering a smile, showing gratitude, or being more supportive can change everything. The most challenging thing is always a start.
Tip: Think about why you don’t want to open up to others. If there’s a serious reason why you get this number of points in the “Are you a likeable person?” quiz, it might be time for change.
Also, you can list small acts of kindness that will make others happy. You might spend more time with them, act positive, be honest about your mistakes, and encourage people to talk about themselves. [1]
Likeability test FAQ
Is this “How likeable are you?” quiz scientific?
This quiz is a fun and simple way to think about your social habits and how others might see you. While it isn’t based on formal studies, it helps you reflect on behaviors that affect your likeability.
Think of a likeable person quiz as a tool for self-awareness and personal growth. Use it to gain ideas to improve your interactions and build stronger connections with others.
Can I improve the score on my likeable test?
Of course, yes! There are dozens of ways to become more likeable and change how others see you.
We’ve already mentioned some of them in the tips. So, let us share one more insight here.
Research shows that asking a question and then two follow-up questions dramatically increases how likable others perceive you to be. [2] These should be questions that encourage others to talk about themselves and feel valued in the conversation.
By showing genuine curiosity and actively listening, you create a connection that makes people feel understood and appreciated — a key ingredient in likeability!
Here’s one more unobvious tip for people who want to be more likeable from Hannah Schlueter, MA, LAC, “If your goal is to become more likeable, one piece to consider is to start small and seek out opportunities that are meaningful to you. Finding people and activities with similar interests or shared experiences as that can create more opportunities for intentional connection and result in more consistent use of these skills. However, in these situations, the goal of becoming more likeable does not have to be the only thing you strive for.”
Sources
- Bernard Marr. “Things Science Says Will Make You More Likeable.”
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. “It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases Liking.” 2017
