Loneliness Test — Find Out More About Your Social Connections

You wake up every morning, go to work, do household duties, and everything seems pretty stable. Yet, there’s one thing that quietly lingers — you constantly feel that something is missing, and this lost feeling influences your happiness and overall mental health. 

This might be a persistent feeling of loneliness, which can quietly shape your self-esteem, make you doubt your worth, and influence other areas of life. Find out whether it’s really it, stop confusing loneliness and other feelings, and get insights on how to handle it with this 5-minute quiz.

Simple & quick loneliness quiz

Please choose one answer for each question. Don’t dwell too much on responses; go with what feels most true. Then, sum up the points and proceed to the loneliness test results. 

1. How often do you feel lonely?

• Almost never. I am the life of the party. (1 point)
• I may sometimes feel like no one understands me. Still, it doesn’t happen regularly. (2 points)
• I frequently need support, but feel like no one cares. (3 points)
• I feel completely alone all the time. (4 points)

2. How do you typically spend your free time?

• I love to hang out with friends and family or travel somewhere and meet new people. (1 point)
• From time to time, I will go out with someone. Yet, I spend a lot of time without my social circle. (2 points)
• It isn’t typical for me to spend weekends with others. I find it challenging to meet people I want to connect with on a deeper level. (3 points)
• I experience social isolation and have no one to drink coffee with, except ChatGPT. (4 points)

3. How close do you feel to your family?

• We’re really close. I know that I can always reach out to them and feel understood. (1 point)
• They’re supportive, but we avoid deeper conversations. (2 points)
• We don’t talk much, and I feel rather isolated in the family. (3 points)
• It feels like they’re complete strangers to me. (4 points)

4. Do you stay in touch with people from different communities? (classmates, workout groups, etc.)

• Yes, I meet a lot of new people regularly and have multiple different social circles. (1 point)

• I join such activities when I can, but they’re not a big part of my life right now. (2 points)
• I used to be involved in something group-related, but these days, I mostly keep to myself. (3 points)
• No, I don’t take part in any groups or clubs at the moment. (4 points)

5. At what percentage are you satisfied with your social life?

• 90-100% (1 point)
• 70-80% (2 points)
• 40-60% (3 points)
• Less than 40% (4 points)

“Do I feel lonely?” test results

No one can ever tell you how to feel and what emotions you experience. If you seem to face a lack of social connections and it influences your well-being — no matter what your score is — it’s better to start seeking new bonds and reach out to a licensed therapist.

Instead, this test can help you notice things you might not have paid attention to before. It’s not always easy to tell if you’re feeling loneliness or something else, like stress, disconnection, or simply a lack of emotional support. As such, the answers can let you explore those feelings and what they might be trying to tell you.

5-9 points. You likely feel connected and fulfilled by the strong relationships

It seems like you have a lot of social bonds and can always reach out to people if you need them. According to your answers, you have no problems with social anxiety or a lack of meaningful communication. You most likely feel connected and fulfilled by the relationships with people around you.

Tip: If something sometimes feels wrong in your relationships or how you connect to others, it might be reasonable to think whether it’s a result of stress, overwhelm, or significant life changes. By stating, “I feel lonely,” you might try to express other emotions and show your desire to be understood.

To spot these feelings and discover their triggers, you can try the Breeze app. Its advanced mood tracker and journaling features allow you to analyze what emotions you experience, how they change over time, and how they influence your life in general. You might experience a noticeable difference after only a few weeks of consistent usage.

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10-13 points. You don’t often feel lonely, but you may lack connections on the intimate level

While on the surface level everything can seem well, you may need deeper and more trustworthy communication. You have many casual friends, but when it comes to sharing a secret or asking for significant help, you don’t know who to message. 

Tip: In the modern world, building meaningful connections may take time and a number of attempts. Still, it might become much easier when you have high emotional intelligence and know how to approach others. Find out your EQ score now and get personalized insights on how to improve it with this quick & free test.

14-17 points. You may experience signs of social disconnection

According to your answers, you likely are missing strong connections, and the lack of emotionally safe relationships may leave you feeling disconnected in ways that affect other areas of your life. However, there’s no need to feel discouraged — things can always change for the better.

Tip: Begin by reading our article on how to make friends as an adult. Here, you’ll find practical tips that will help you meet new people. Try them and notice what works best for you, and remember that it’s important not only to build connections but to nurture them over time as well. 

Even more, with the Breeze app, you can find out your humor and social styles, temperament type, and much more. This understanding of your personality makes it easier to connect with the right people and build relationships that actually feel good and last.

18-20 points. It seems like you face chronic loneliness

You may be experiencing social isolation or early signs of chronic loneliness, both of which can significantly impact emotional well-being. Even when you’re around others, you may still feel unseen. If you live in this state for too long, you may start to notice the symptoms of depression and sleep problems. [1]

Sources

1. Mushtaq R, Shoib S, Shah T, Mushtaq S. “Relationship between loneliness, psychiatric disorders and physical health? A review on the psychological aspects of loneliness.” J Clin Diagn Res. 2014
2. Byrd, Natalie. (2024). “Loneliness is the Nucleus for Psychopathology: Relationships with Cognitive, Social, and Personality Disorders.” 2024